When discussing systemic racism and reading The New Jim Crow begins to consume you, taking a break to watch Stranger Things on Netflix while savoring Rocky Road Haagen Dazs is probably the smartest thing you can do to help make the world a better place.

How to abolish systemic racism using Netflix and Häagen-Dazs

Stranger Things might not seem like the cure for systemic racism. And, well, it probably isn’t. But it is the cure for a stressed out brain that needs a break from processing the many facets of a deeply troubling and overwhelmingly complex problem. Savoring some Rocky Road helps too. Systemic racism has no simple solution I can do […]

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Have hope, go high

I have hope and you can’t stop me. Terrible awful things are happening all the time, but still I have hope. Love is greater than fear. Love is everywhere. And as our First Lady said* the other night, “don’t let anyone ever tell you that this country isn’t great.” America has issues, don’t get me wrong. […]

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Humility is a privilege.

With privilege must come humility

Am I a selfish racist? It’s a painful question to consider. I am a good person. I care deeply about others. I believe in equal rights. But if my actions don’t reflect my beliefs, I might as well be a selfish racist. Last week I wrote about my ability to block out the pain of the […]

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All lives matter. But America needs to prove it believes that black lives matter.

Which lives matter?

I would rather be reading romance. It’s my daily escape that makes a long commute feel short and it’s also encouraging to read about people with complicated lives and emotions who nonetheless get happily-ever-afters. But I can’t read romance when my heart is breaking, so instead I have to write about murder. I am ashamed that it has […]

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Non-city sunsets

This will be my thirteenth summer in New York. I kind of can’t believe so much time has passed since my first exposure to Manhattan’s thick heat and teeming streets, but here we are. And while there is plenty to appreciate about the city in the summer, over the last two weeks I’ve experienced the landscapes of […]

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Flirt cards

I am single again. This is not what I wanted. What I wanted was a strong, healthy, lasting relationship. Instead I am single. I love my now-ex-boyfriend, and I know that he loves me. That is both reassuring and irrelevant because I also know our relationship wasn’t working and we couldn’t make it work and now we have stopped […]

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